Two traveling monks reached a river where they met a young woman. Wary of the current, she asked if they could carry her across. One of the monks hesitated, but the other quickly picked her up onto his shoulders, transported her across the water, and put her down on the other bank. She thanked him and departed.
As the monks continued on their way, the one was brooding and preoccupied. Unable to hold his silence, he spoke out.
“Brother, our spiritual training teaches us to avoid any contact with women, but you picked that one up on your shoulders and carried her!”
“Brother,” the second monk replied,
“I set her down on the other side, while you are still carrying her.”
~Based on an autobiographical story by Japanese master Tanzan, 1819-1892
One of the best pieces of coaching I have ever received is to let go of all judgement. Judgement of others, but more importantly judgement of yourself and the things around you. When you let go of your judgments then the world becomes a very simple place. Take things for what they are, just a small point in time on a life long journey. Don’t dwell on things too long or else you might miss something.